That feeling we call falling in love is the way the soul
temporarily suppresses the influence of the ego, to let us
get in contact with our authentic self. When we feel that
emotion we call falling in love, all our guards are down, we
unconsciously move from a place of separation, the ego,
to a place of union, in the heart center, where the possibility
to become love exist. Have you noticed that I said to become
love, not to fall in love. Love is not a feeling, the feeling is only
the key that help opened our heart center,our connection to
Source, where love exist within all of us.
When we make the mistake of identifying with the feeling,
when the feeling looses its intensity, because it will, as
all emotions do with the passing of time, we also believe
that love has departed from our life. Consequently, we
become despondent, depress, discourage, upset, angry with
the other person for not being the right person for us. As a
result, all the positive emotions we felt for that person
are gone, we removed our proverbial ‘pink glasses’ and we
see only faults where before we saw only qualities.
When we have reached this place in a relationship, we
commonly say that we have fallen out of love. No, you did
not fall out of love, because you were not in love in the first
place, what has changed is your attraction and your desire
for that person, because the intensity of that feeling is gone.
Love is not something we fall in and out off. Love has nothing
to do with sentimentality. This is not a movie, and we are not
in Hollywood. We love or we don’t.
To experience love we have to become love. Love is not a
feeling, love is action. Our behavior indicates at all time
if we are loving or not, not what we claimed we feel. To
love others we must first love ourselves, there is no other
way. If we don’t love our-self unconditionally, it is
impossible for us to love another unconditionally. We cannot
give what we are not.
So instead of blaming others for the lack of loving relationship
in your life, spend time getting to know yourself, appreciate
yourself and love yourself. If you have a lot of difficulty
accepting and loving yourself due to past traumas, you might
need the help of a counselor, a spiritual adviser or a life coach.
When you truly love yourself unconditionally, the next time
your soul present you with this emotional gift we call
falling in love, instead of being stuck in the emotional
roller-coaster that feeling creates, you will be able to
recognize that feeling for what it is, and move to a place
of love within yourself and open your heart to accept that
person with that same unconditional love you have for
yourself. This is what love is all about.
