Love. A word charged like a loaded gun. We have been bombarded all
our lives by messages about love. You must love your mother and
your father; you must love your siblings, your friends, your
husband, your wife, your pet etc. Since love begins with one’s
self, how can you love anyone if you don’t love yourself?
If you spent your childhood being put down by your parents and
other adults or peers that you looked up to for your sense of
self, you will have difficulty loving yourself. These negative and
derogatory messages are recorded in your subconscious mind and
their effects are still affecting you to this day.
When someone told you that you were a loser, you believed them.
When someone told you that you’d never amount to anything, you
believed them. When someone told you that you were dumb, or
learning disabled or a total idiot, you believed them. The sad
part is that you still believe them to this day even if you’re
not consciously aware of that.
Is it possible to rewrite these old messages playing in your
subconscious mind and replace them with new, empowering ones?
Yes you can!
The first thing you need to do is to spoil and pamper yourself.
Spend time doing things that make you feel good. Be selfish with
your time. Do things with others or for others when you feel good
about doing it not out of obligation or because you want their
approval. Spend quality time with yourself because you deserve it.
Learn to love spending time alone. Read personal development
books to help you explore a new way of being.
Secondly, examine your current belief system. Create positive and
empowering affirmations such as: “I am a valuable person. I have
a lot to offer. I am creative, talented, and successful. People
appreciate my company”. Use affirmations when the old messages
begin playing in your head to make you feel inadequate or to hold
you back. Challenge them. Don’t let your past determine your
future. Don’t let someone else’s opinion determine your reality.
Decide what you want to be true about yourself.
Thirdly, stop focusing on what is wrong with you. Instead focus
on all the good things you have going for you. Love yourself,
encourage yourself in your self-talk. When you accomplish
something congratulate yourself! Say things like, “Wow, I am
so proud of myself for making this happen.” “When I look at
myself in the mirror, I see a beautiful, intelligent and loving
person looking back at meâ€. The more you nurture yourself,
the better you will feel, and in time these old self limiting beliefs will
lose their power over you and your subconscious mind will begin
to accept the new, positive and empowering messages you have
been feeding it. When you can truly affirm that you love yourself,
the love for others will come naturally without any effort on your
part, and you will attract new individuals in your life that will
reflect that love towards you in return.
